TRAWSNEWID / TRANSITIONS
Drwy astudio yoga, down i ddeall mai’r unig beth cyson mewn bywyd yw newid – newidiadau bach a mawr, rhai wedi eu cynllunio ac eraill yn syrpreisys llwyr. Wrth i mi ganfod fy hun mewn cyfnod o newid ar hyn o bryd, caf fy atgoffa nad yw’r gwaith mewnol byth ar ben. Mae ‘na wastad haenau eraill, dyfnach i’w darganfod, a chlymau dirgel o densiwn i’w datod. Wrth ymgymryd â’r gwaith o eistedd gyda theimladau sydd weithiau’n boenus dros ben, y cynhwysyn pwysicaf un yw tynerwch. Fel y ces i fy atgoffa gan fy ymddygiad fy hun yn ddiweddar, mae mor hawdd siarad yn gas ac yn llym gyda ni’n hunain. Ond bydd gwneud hynny’n ein cadw ni’n gaeth mewn hen batrymau ac yn rhwystro ein gallu i drawsnewid. Mae hi hefyd yn hawdd mynd yn sownd mewn teimlad o ddeuoliaeth – ni a nhw – yn enwedig mewn perthnasau heriol lle mae gwrthdaro, dryswch a phoen yn bresennol. Ond drwy ymarfer tynerwch, cofiwn ein bod ni i gyd, dim ots pa mor wahanol, yn rhan o’r un we. Ac i mi, mae gwybod hynny’n help mawr i ymlacio i mewn i lif trawsnewid.
Through studying yoga, we come to understand that the only constant in life is change – small changes and big changes, planned transformations and complete curveballs. As I find myself in a period of change and transition at the moment, I’m reminded that the inner work is never complete. There are always deeper layers to uncover and ever subtler knots to undo. If we choose to devote ourselves to the work of sitting and feeling through what can often be very painful emotions, the most essential ingredients in this work are tenderness and compassion. As I was reminded through my own behaviour recently, it’s so easy to speak harshly to ourselves. But a negative and unkind inner dialogue will only keep us trapped in old, self-defeating patterns, and restrict the flow of transformation. It’s also very easy to get stuck in a sense of duality – us and them – especially in challenging relationships where there may be conflict, confusion and hurt. But by practicing tenderness and compassion, we remember that we are all, however different, part of the same whole. For me, knowing this is very comforting, and helps me to relax into the flow of inevitable change and transformation.
O / From: Yung Pueblo, Clarity and Connection
“as we move into deeper wisdom, we become motivated by a growing sense of compassion for ourselves and others. it is easier to understand others and what drives their actions when we understand our own inner world.
as our conscious thinking evolves, we become gentler with ourselves and others, a new loving positivity emerges from releasing the tension of ego and allowing clarity to come forward – the essence of healing ourselves.
however, this gentleness and positivity should not be confused with a complete transformation. we can see signs of a new clarity emerging, but we must remember that the mind is vast, and the subconscious, where most of our emotional history is stored, holds much that still needs to be released. we are in a situation where our conscious thought patterns may have changed for the better, but our subconscious thoughts, the ones that sometimes spontaneously emerge, are still filled with the heaviness and harshness of old ways.
this is not to say that we should force ourselves to think a certain way or push down certain thoughts. we should just be aware that this lack of a linear trajectory is a natural part of the healing process and instead focus on cultivating the habits and practices that are helping us to transform.”